What are some alternatives?
When comparing Togetheo and Shapr for communities, you can also consider the following products
Project Fixup - Meet people, not profiles
Meed - Meed provides a global platform for a community of networked Member Banks and individual Meed users.
VoyageUp - Discover and meet people nearby
Wildcard - Discover, connect and meet people at communities
FriendsTonight - Meet new friends to join your friends, tonight
Genuin Relationships - Genuin conversations lead to genuine relations